Hi Lovelies!
When I was 19 I did not think I would be meeting my soul mate. I was working and not even thinking about dating. At all.
At the time I was working for my dad at a metal recycling company. I know, girly right. It was a tough job but I enjoyed it. One day, a tall, dark, good looking guy walks through the door and I knew I had to say “hi”. So, in any true girl fashion, I made some silly excuse about needing the broom he was standing by and made my way over. He was having a conversation with my dad and they stopped, dad introduced me, we said hi to one another, I grabbed the broom and walked away.
He was even better looking up close.
I thought that was that. Probably wouldn’t talk to him ever again. Move on.
Oh boy, was I was wrong.
A couple weeks later I got a new position weighing in semi trucks in a small scale house up front. I LOVED this job. You had to be quick some times and you had to know what each individual axle weight on a truck could not surpass, but I liked what I did!
Well, low and behold in drives a large truck needing to be weighed and none other than that tall, dark, good looking guy was driving. I was pumped.
From that day forward we laughed, flirted, exchanged numbers and talked till our ears and thumbs could have fallen off.
We went on dates and trips and hung out whenever our schedules allowed it. In those first few months we really got to know one another and that’s how it all started.
Since 2012 we have created a home and have had three amazing little boys. We’ve built a beautiful life together.
But don’t let all the laughter and smiles fool you. We have been through it (I’ll save the hardships for a future post). I’d like to keep this post positive and light but I don’t want it to not be realistic either. We’ve had our drag out fights a plenty but we chose to buckle down and hang on for the ride. And it has been so worth it.
Lifelong commitment isn’t easy. You have to decide you want it and stick with it no matter how hard it gets. It’s not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep. It’s not a laughter filled, clean home everyday.
Some days it’s slammed doors and a few harsh words when arguments arise. It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts can processes and heal…, then…FORGIVENESS! ALWAYS FORGIVENESS! (before you go to bed).
Commitment is coming home to the same person, day in and day out, that you know LOVES and CARES about you because of who you are inside and out. It’s laughing until you cry about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It’s about dirty laundry and dishes and eventually diapers, helping each other with the hard work of everyday life that is never ending.
It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of using them to hurt one another. It’s when you have an emotional breakdown and your significant other picks up the slack to help you through it. Remembering those “in good times and bad” vows you once made to each other isn’t easy. Loving someone is not easy and neither is marriage….sometimes it’s extremely hard and unrelenting but if you and your significant other strap in and hang on, you will look back and see how many goods outweighed the bad and how every tear shed was worth saving your relationship.
You’re not alone. Every relationship/ marriage has a rough patch. Look deep within your heart, trust the Lord and let Him guide you and you will find your way.
Love,
Victoria Rae
Victoria Rae 